I heard an English comedian say, “Great Britain? It’s not great. It’s pretty good, but not great.” I’ve lived and worked in 12 different countries, and everywhere, the locals bragged about how great their country or city is, so much better than any other place. Most of them had never
If you have to leave your relationship, go with love. If you’ve experienced too many things from them that made you feel awful about yourself, or worse; if you haven’t found any way for peace between you, no matter what you’ve tried; if your heart tells you that the only
Childhood sexual abuse destroys the child emotionally and is very twisted, because, statistically, 80% of the time the perpetrator is a parent or a loved one. So, the child feels love, even sexual arousal, but is being controlled and manipulated, and it becomes a deep dark secret they can never
Getting #closure after a #relationship #breakup is entirely up to YOU. If you need your ex to verify that they actually did #love you and weren’t just saying so, to #validate that they really did see you as #beautiful, to assure you that they actually did #admire things about
In #relationships #female types and #male types are quite different, according to #psychology #research. Female #identities have three main #needs: 1. Be really #seen – and #heard – to have their #feelings acknowledged 2. Be really #understood – from her #perspective, not yours! Females want you to #listen, #understand,
#Female types and #male types, whichever one you #identify with as being, #think, and solve #problems, very differently, still like our #ancient #ancestors! Back then, males were the #hunters, did that #alone, focused on #action, saying nothing until the problem is solved. Females were the gatherers, caretakers, did that in
One of the things I have #learned in my #work is that it takes about 10 times more #energy to #suppress your #emotional #hurt, than it does to #express it, to #cry. All of us have only so much energy to use every #day. If we are spending a tremendous
Now. The only time that I was ever deeply in #love, it was #now. The only time I ever had fantastic #fun, it was now. The only #time that I ever truly had my #power, it was now. The only time that I ever really #laughed my ass off,
We all make #assumptions. Most of us know on some level that’s not a good idea! And, in #relationships we tend to #assume the #worst!! Because of our #insecurity and #fear, we make things up to be upset about. Since we make assumptions anyway, if you want a #happy
A #happy #relationship requires focus on #giving, instead of #getting. My recent focus was, “what if you devastate me?”, and I pulled back. She’s #uncertain, so I closed my #heart for #protection. That #hurt her deeply. Then I realized #closing my heart for protection is all about what I
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