If you have to leave your relationship, go with love. If you’ve experienced too many things from them that made you feel awful about yourself, or worse; if you haven’t found any way for peace between you, no matter what you’ve tried; if your heart tells you that the only
Childhood sexual abuse destroys the child emotionally and is very twisted, because, statistically, 80% of the time the perpetrator is a parent or a loved one. So, the child feels love, even sexual arousal, but is being controlled and manipulated, and it becomes a deep dark secret they can never
Getting #closure after a #relationship #breakup is entirely up to YOU. If you need your ex to verify that they actually did #love you and weren’t just saying so, to #validate that they really did see you as #beautiful, to assure you that they actually did #admire things about
In #relationships #female types and #male types are quite different, according to #psychology #research. Female #identities have three main #needs: 1. Be really #seen – and #heard – to have their #feelings acknowledged 2. Be really #understood – from her #perspective, not yours! Females want you to #listen, #understand,
#Female types and #male types, whichever one you #identify with as being, #think, and solve #problems, very differently, still like our #ancient #ancestors! Back then, males were the #hunters, did that #alone, focused on #action, saying nothing until the problem is solved. Females were the gatherers, caretakers, did that in
One of the things I have #learned in my #work is that it takes about 10 times more #energy to #suppress your #emotional #hurt, than it does to #express it, to #cry. All of us have only so much energy to use every #day. If we are spending a tremendous
Now. The only time that I was ever deeply in #love, it was #now. The only time I ever had fantastic #fun, it was now. The only #time that I ever truly had my #power, it was now. The only time that I ever really #laughed my ass off,
We all make #assumptions. Most of us know on some level that’s not a good idea! And, in #relationships we tend to #assume the #worst!! Because of our #insecurity and #fear, we make things up to be upset about. Since we make assumptions anyway, if you want a #happy
A #happy #relationship requires focus on #giving, instead of #getting. My recent focus was, “what if you devastate me?”, and I pulled back. She’s #uncertain, so I closed my #heart for #protection. That #hurt her deeply. Then I realized #closing my heart for protection is all about what I
What is #love? I believe it’s another aspect of what the Chinese call #Chi, or #life force #energy. In the Bible it says “God is love”, so, love is #God. To me, love is #spiritual #connection. I have found that when I #connect with someone #emotionally I connect #spiritually,
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